Criticism is both good and necessary, though it is often designed to be neither – that is a criticism of criticism! However, when properly offered, that is, gently, lovingly, cautiously and sparingly, criticism can be very valuable for both the one who gives it, the one who receives it and those who are affected by both those parties. Paul emphasized that those who are spiritual are to engage in a kind of loving criticism when he wrote, “Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted” (Galatians 6:1). One can hardly talk with a friend or brother, especially about sin in his life, without being somewhat critical. However, we should all notice the qualifiers that Paul attached to such in this passage: “spirit of gentleness, considering yourself.” Hence, the necessity of both giving and receiving criticism is understood by all.
However, there are certain kinds of criticism and certain conditions under which it should never be offered. In order for criticism to be just and profitable, the one doing it should make sure of certain truths. (1) He should be certain of all the facts involved. The presumption of knowing all that is going on in the hearts, minds and lives of others is an extraordinarily dangerous thing. Therefore, it is wise to ask questions and to make inquiries before offering any criticism at all. (2) He should make sure that what he is criticizing is worth the effort. There are a million things that can happen one may not especially like, but unless there is sin involved – souls in danger – he needs to exercise forbearance, which is a very vital principle of Scripture. One does not have to like all that happens anywhere or under any circumstance. Yet, it is not necessary to hurt others, or even to disconcert them by making criticism of something one does not like. This is a principle plainly taught in Romans 14 but obviously missed by many. Therefore, it is wise to practice biblical forbearance with brothers and sisters in Christ, as well as the “golden rule” of Matthew 7:12.
It should also be added that (3) one should never criticize who does not compliment! There are several reasons such as the one being criticized will feel that you have no real interest in him, only in criticism. Criticism for criticism’s sake rarely has any value. A person may do a thousand good things and never be complimented, but if that person does one thing of which some do not approve, he can depend on the criticism coming very rapidly and very furiously. The recipient will just “turn it off,” so there is nothing of any value gained except the critic finds yet another opportunity to vent! Criticism is not for the good of the critic but for the recipient when properly given and received. (4) Critics should ask themselves some very personal questions such as: Why am I upset by this matter? To whom have I been listening that would cause my distress in this matter? Can I or am I doing a superior work to the one I am criticizing? Am I doing an unholy thing in the name of preserving righteousness in the kingdom? Just some thoughts on criticism.
